The research says that the quality of a therapeutic relationship is THE most important factor for therapeutic success. That’s saying something because the research (and clinicians) don’t actually agree on much else. Exhibit A: Should your therapist pass you a tissue box when you’re crying? Yes. Really.

Long story short, chemistry is important.

I’ve had therapy with five therapists from various theoretic orientations over the last decade, had consultations with many many more, and I’ve created a checklist with all the important criteria to save you the time and money.

It’s what worked for me, so feel free to take what works for you and ditch what doesn’t.